Couples Retreat
Give each other your full attention, without distractions. Three or five nights embraced by nature, in the forest hills outside Chiang Mai, for couples who want to go deeper, unlock new parts of their relationship, or come back to each other through a challenging or life-changing time: a dopamine and digital detox, eye gazing and heart connection, time apart for your own work, an optional physical detox, and plenty of pampering. US$550 a night for the two of you, with the second person free.
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- Approach
Retreat highlights
- A dopamine and digital detox for the whole stay: phones in the room safe, no screens, no alcohol, so all of your attention goes to each other
- A physical purification and detox alongside it, if you want one, set up with you on the call
- Eye gazing and heart connection every morning, the practices that let each of you feel seen, heard and understood
- Space for your bodies to decompress and breathwork the two of you do together, so both nervous systems settle at once
- Time apart every afternoon with your own facilitator, for your own work, so you come back to each other with more to give
- Your goals set with both of you on the first morning, and the depth of the stay set by the two of you
- Pampering: a couples massage on three nights and two on five, the pool, the gardens, and food somebody else cooked
- A closing evening on the last night, and a thirty-day plan with one call from your facilitator a month later
- A private room with its own bathroom and a balcony, all meals, both airport transfers
- Six couples at most, and the sessions together are yours alone
About this retreat
This is for couples in more than one place. Some of you are good together and want to go deeper, to unlock parts of your relationship you have not reached yet. Some of you are going through a hard stretch, or a life-changing one, and need time for your bodies to decompress and your nervous systems to settle before you can come together in a loving way again. Every one of you needs the same thing first: time and space to hold each other without distractions.
So for a few nights the phones go in the safe. You are in the hills above Hang Dong, in a place built for exactly this, with nothing to organise. Mornings you practise together: eye gazing, heart connection, breathing that brings both of you down at the same time. Afternoons you each have your own facilitator and your own time, then you come back to each other. The rest is a massage, the pool and the valley. If you want it, you can do a physical purification and detox alongside the dopamine detox.
On the first morning we sit with both of you and ask what you want from the stay. Some couples want rest and closeness. Some want to go deep. You choose the depth, and the week is set to match it.
This is a conscious investment in the person you have chosen to share your life with. Every place is offered after a call with both of you.
Together, apart, and together again
Each of you gets time with your own facilitator every afternoon. You work on your own things, and you come back to your partner with more to bring. Then the evening belongs to the two of you.
Together
Two hours with both facilitators. Eye gazing, heart connection and breathing together. Simple practices that work, and that you can keep using at home.
Apart
An hour each with your own facilitator, on whatever you brought for yourself. Your facilitator stays yours for the whole stay.
Together again
Dinner with the other couples, then the two of you, phones still away. The last evening is the closing, and what you are taking home.
Schedule
An ordinary day. The first morning is your goals for the stay and the last evening is the closing. On the three-night stay there is one full day like this; on the five-night stay there are three.
The shape is fixed. The timing moves with the group.
Who this is for
- You are good together and want to go deeper
- You want to unlock parts of your relationship you have not reached yet
- You are going through a challenging time and need space to decompress before you come back to each other
- A wedding, a child, a move, a loss or a change of work is reshaping your life and you want to meet it together
- You want to hold space for each other with no phones, work or noise in the way
- You want practices you can keep using at home
Who it is not for
- There is violence or addiction in the relationship, which needs a clinician first, and we will say so on the call
- One of you cannot be without a phone for a few days
Accommodation
Every couple has a private room. Two rooms at Insda suit the stay.
Sun View Room
A queen bed, your own bathroom, a balcony facing east over the valley. The price below.
Bali Pool Villa
A king bed, a full sitting room and your own pool, for a couple that wants the whole stay behind one door. One villa exists. Add US$120 a night.
Every room: air conditioning, hot water, fresh linen, a balcony, a kettle.
Venue and amenities
Insda Wellness Resort sits on the Hang Dong to Samoeng road, twenty-three kilometres out of Chiang Mai and far enough into the hills that your phone stops mattering. Twenty-nine teak rooms, gardens, a pool, and a long open hall.
Meals
Whole food cooked on site from what the growers around Hang Dong have that week, eaten at the long table with the other couples and the team. Three meals a day, plant-forward, meat on request. Dietary needs are catered with notice on the intake form.
What is included
Included
- Three or five nights in a private room in the forest hills
- A session together every day, two hours, with both facilitators
- A session apart every day, an hour each, with your own facilitator
- A goals session with both of you on the first morning
- Eye gazing, heart connection and partner breathwork, every day
- One couples massage on three nights, two on five
- Daily breathwork and movement
- The dopamine and digital detox: phones in the safe, no screens, no alcohol, for the whole stay
- The closing evening
- A printed workbook of the practices, one each
- All meals, three a day
- Both airport transfers, Chiang Mai to Hang Dong and back
- The screening call before, and one call with your facilitator thirty days after
Not included
- Airfare into Chiang Mai
- Travel insurance, which is required
- Visa, where your passport needs one
- Extra bodywork beyond what is scheduled
- Personal spend
Prices and terms
Bali Pool Villa adds US$120 a night.
The second person is free. The price is US$550 a night and it covers the two of you. Nothing is charged until the call. After it, a US$500 deposit holds the room and the balance is due a fortnight before you arrive.
Getting here
Chiang Mai International Airport (CNX), then twenty-three kilometres south west to Hang Dong and up the Samoeng road. About forty-five minutes, longer in rain.
You are met at arrivals on day one and driven straight to the resort. On the last day you are driven back with time to spare.
Select your options
Sun View Room
Change the dates or the room in the panel and this updates with them. Your selection travels with the enquiry, so the first reply already knows what you asked for.
Questions people actually ask
Do we have to talk about our relationship in front of other couples?
No. The sessions together are the two of you and the facilitators. The group is for meals, the morning practice and the evenings.
What if one of us does not want to be there?
Say so on the call. It is normal for one of you to be keener. The call is where we check the week fits you both.
Is there any ceremony?
No. The closing evening is a conversation between the two of you.
How deep does it go?
As deep as the two of you want. We ask you both on the first morning and set the stay to match.
We are going through a hard time. Is this for us?
Yes. A lot of what this week does is give your bodies and nervous systems room to settle, so you can meet each other in a loving way again. Tell us where you are on the call and we will set the stay to match.
What is the physical detox?
An optional purification and detox that runs alongside the dopamine detox, for either or both of you. We talk it through on the call and set it up before you arrive.
Do we really have to give up our phones?
Yes, for the stay. They go in the room safe on arrival. Anyone who needs to reach you in an emergency can call the resort.
We have a baby. Can we bring them?
Not for this one. The sessions apart need both of you free.
Can we stay longer?
Yes. Ask on the call and we will arrange the extra nights with Insda.
What happens after?
A thirty-day plan written on the last day, one call with your facilitator a month later, and the Henosis community.
