Couples Retreat in Chiang Mai
Leave feeling seen and understood by the person you chose.
About this retreat
This is for couples in more than one place. Some of you are good together and want to go deeper, to unlock parts of your relationship you have not reached yet. Some of you are going through a hard stretch, or a life-changing one, and need time for your bodies to decompress and your nervous systems to settle before you can come together in a loving way again. Every one of you needs the same thing first: time and space to hold each other without distractions.
So for a few nights the phones go in the safe. You are in the hills above Hang Dong, in a place built for exactly this, with nothing to organise. On the first afternoon you set your intention together and choose the depth, and the stay is set to match it.
This is a conscious investment in the person you have chosen to share your life with. Every place is offered after a call with both of you.
- Intensity
- Pace
- Social
- Comfort
- Approach
Retreat highlights
Intention setting
On the first afternoon each of you writes what you want from these days, and together you set one intention and the depth you want to go to.
A teaching hour every day
Why couples drift, the nervous system in love, the four warning signs, family systems and keeping desire alive, in plain words.
Phones away, bodies first
A digital and dopamine detox for the whole stay, with breathwork and TRE every morning so both nervous systems settle.
Know your partner as a stranger
Dinner as if you had just met: questions you have never asked, answered as if for the first time.
Write a letter to your partner
What I saw in you this week, what I am taking home, what I promise. Read aloud to each other, alone.
After the retreat
Rituals to keep at home, a thirty-day plan, and one call with your facilitator a month later.
Together, apart, and together again
Mornings you practise together. Afternoons belong to each of you, then you come back to your partner with more to bring. The evening is the two of you.
Together
Breathwork and TRE, the teaching hour, then the skills and practices as a couple: eye gazing, heart connection, conscious touch.
Apart
Your pamper session and one thing of your own, so the body has time to take in what the morning brought up.
Together again
Dinner at the long table, then the two of you, phones still away. The last evening is the closing, and what you are taking home.
Schedule
Choose a length to see each day. The shape is fixed; exact times move with the group.
One full pass through the whole process: set your intention, learn the skills, meet each other fresh, map your cycle, and have the conversation. US$1,650 for the two of you.
- Arrive, lunch, phones go in the room safe
- Opening circle and agreementsConfidentiality, consent, and private conversations stay private
- Intention settingFor yourself, for the two of you, and the depth you want to go to
- Teaching hour: why couples drift
- Breathwork
- Dinner, then five minutes of eye gazing
- TRE, and how to notice you are flooding
- Teaching hour: the four warning signs and their antidotes
- Practise the skills, as a couple
- Map your cycleWho pursues, who withdraws, and the fear underneath
- Time apart: your pamper session and one thing of your own
- Heart connection and conscious touch
- Know your partner as a stranger
- Breathwork
- Teaching hour: where patterns come from
- Family constellations, by choice
- Your pamper session
- The reaching conversationWhat I am afraid of, what I need from you
- Write a letter to your partner
- Your rituals for home, and the closing
The same order with room for each part to land, a full day of family constellations, and a day for play, adventure and desire. US$2,750 for the two of you.
- Arrive, phones away, opening circle
- Intention setting
- Teaching hour: why couples drift
- Breathwork, dinner, eye gazing
- TRE, the full introduction, and flooding
- Teaching hour: your nervous system in love
- Settling your partner with breath, voice and touch
- Mutual journaling: curiosity and admiration
- Time apart: your pamper session
- Eye gazing and heart connection
- Know your partner as a stranger
- Teaching hour: the four warning signs and their antidotes
- Map your cycle and the raw spots underneath it
- Your pamper session
- The dream inside the conflict
- Conscious touch, then appreciations at dinner
- Teaching hour: family systems
- Family constellations, morningBy choice, and each ends turned back to your partner
- Rest and a short treatment
- Family constellations, afternoon
- A sunrise walk into the hills together
- Teaching hour: keeping desire alive
- The reaching conversation
- Watch each other shine
- The desire conversationClothed and conversational
- Write a letter to your partner
- Your rituals for home, and the closing
- Breakfast, phones back, transfer to the airport
Every day, hour by hour, is in the .
Who it is for
This is for you if
- You are good together and want to go deeper
- You want to unlock parts of your relationship you have not reached yet
- You are going through a challenging time and need space to decompress before you come back to each other
- A wedding, a child, a move, a loss or a change of work is reshaping your life and you want to meet it together
- You want to hold space for each other with no phones, work or noise in the way
It is not the right fit if
- There is violence or addiction in the relationship. That needs a clinician first, and we will say so on the call
- An affair is still going on
- One of you cannot be without a phone for a few days
Rooms and prices
Every couple has a private room with its own bathroom and balcony. Prices are for the two of you and include meals, the programme and both airport transfers.
Sun View Room
A queen bed, your own bathroom, a balcony facing east over the valley.
Bali Pool Villa
A king bed, a full sitting room and your own pool, for a couple that wants the whole stay behind one door. Add US$120 a night.
| Length | Price for two | Dates |
|---|---|---|
| 3 nights | US$1,650 | Tue 1 to Fri 4 Dec 2026 · Sun 20 to Wed 23 Dec 2026 · Thu 11 to Sun 14 Feb 2027 |
| 5 nights | US$2,750 | Tue 1 to Sun 6 Dec 2026 |
The second person is free: US$550 a night covers the two of you. Nothing is charged until the call. After it, a US$500 deposit holds the room and the balance is due a fortnight before you arrive.
What is included
Included
- Three or five nights in a private room with its own bathroom and balcony
- The full programme with two facilitators, and a teaching hour every day
- Breathwork and TRE every morning
- Eye gazing, heart connection and conscious touch
- The skills sessions, mapping your cycle and the reaching conversation
- Family constellations, by choice
- The pamper package: two treatments each on three nights, four on five, plus a couples massage, two on five nights
- The digital and dopamine detox for the whole stay
- Mutual journaling, with a journal each to take home
- All meals, three a day, and both airport transfers
- A thirty-day plan and one call with your facilitator a month later
Not included
- Flights to Chiang Mai
- Travel insurance, which is required
- Visa, where your passport needs one
- Extra treatments beyond the pamper package
- Personal spend
The venue
Insda Wellness Resort sits on the Hang Dong to Samoeng road, twenty-three kilometres out of Chiang Mai and far enough into the hills that your phone stops mattering. Twenty-nine teak rooms, gardens, a pool, and a long open hall.
Questions people actually ask
Do we have to talk about our relationship in front of other couples?
No. The group is for teaching and practice. Your conversations as a couple happen privately, with a facilitator nearby.
What is the difference between 3 and 5 nights?
Three nights goes through the whole process once. Five gives each part room to land, adds a full day of family constellations, and a day for play, adventure and desire. The longer you stay, the deeper it goes.
We are going through a hard time. Is this for us?
Yes. A lot of what this week does is give your bodies and nervous systems room to settle, so you can meet each other in a loving way again. Tell us where you are on the call.
What if one of us does not want to be there?
Say so on the call. It is normal for one of you to be keener. The call is where we check the week fits you both.
Do we have to do family constellations?
No. It is offered, never required. You can take part by standing in for someone in another person's constellation, or simply watch.
Is anything sexual?
No. Conscious touch and the desire conversation are clothed and conversational.
Do we really have to give up our phones?
Yes, for the stay. They go in the room safe on arrival. Anyone who needs to reach you in an emergency can call the resort.
Is the programme based on research?
It is informed by the research of John and Julie Gottman, Sue Johnson and Esther Perel, alongside breathwork, TRE and family constellations.
Can we stay longer?
Yes. Ask on the call and we will arrange the extra nights with Insda.
What happens after?
A thirty-day plan written on the last day, one call with your facilitator a month later, and the Henosis community.
